Durban LGBT+ voices: KZN needs to do more in promoting acceptance and safety
Keeping The Promise To LGBT+ People. This was this year’s theme for the eighth annual Durban Pride that took place on June 30, the last day of international Pride Month. With reports on LGBT+ violence and killings emerging on a regular basis, Mambaonline spoke to pride attendees to find out what challenges they are faced with and what promises they want the city to keep.
Tumi Dumisa, 21, bisexual, Durban
The LGBT+ community here faces challenges of acceptance, tolerance and safety. It’s a big thing and quite shocking that so many deaths and assaults are happening but nothing is being done about it. We need acceptance from our families and communities, because lack of acceptance affects a lot of people from the [LGBT+] community, which results in many hurting or even killing themselves. The city’s municipality needs to do more for LGBT+ people, they are also citizens here.
Last year, the Institute of Race Relations found that KwaZulu-Natal was the second most hostile province in the country towards LGBT+ people after the Eastern Cape. The LGBT+ community in the province was at high risk of being exposed to physical and verbal assault from their relatives and were also targets of sexual abuse and or rape.
David Richardson, 22, gay, Durban
There is a high lack of representation of queer people of colour, both here [in the province] and throughout the country. White gay men are not the only queer people, and I’m not sorry for saying that. We [also] need to do more with transgender and bisexual awareness for instance. We really need to focus on everyone more than we do on white gay people.
Research shows that the risk of being a black LGBT person living in a township is much higher compared to living in suburban areas. Four out of 10 South Africans know someone who has been murdered for being suspected of being gay, lesbian or transgender.
As for the promises that the city of Durban needs to keep to its LGBT+ citizens, recommendations included doing more to educate communities about the diversity and the value of our marginalised group.
Mampeli Mothepu, 23, straight, Westville
As an LGBT+ ally, I really think more needs to be done in educating people to rid themselves of the stereotypical view that they have on the community. We can see that society does not want to understand, but there is no effective intervention from authorities whatsoever, and that is confusing because you’d expect them to ensure that the LGBT+ community feels just as safe and free as straight people. We clearly need more effective laws on the safety of the LGBT+ community. There are too many attacks and murders happening out there and it’s very clear that the structures we have in place are not effective enough.
Last year, a man who was arrested for raping and beating up a 17-year-old woman who identified as lesbian was granted bail, leaving the province’s LGBT+ community in shock and more fear.
Bheka Khanyile, 23, gay, Umlazi
We want the province to do more in ensuring that we are accepted. Yes, although they preach about it, we are still not accepted as much as we would like to be, and the lack of acceptance also comes from the political side. It’s been over 20 years since we have entered democracy, [yet] so many people are living in peace compared to us. So when are we going to be able to walk around without the fear of being attacked because of what I am wearing or how I speak or even who I choose to associate myself with?
The city of Durban does indeed not appear to offer visible support for its LGBT+ community. Last month, The Durban City Hall forced DA Councillor, Martin Meyer, to take down an LGBT+ rainbow flag. The Municipality also refused to pass a motion expressing support for Pride. In 2017, the KwaZulu Natal MEC for Health’s wife, Nono Dhlomo, said gay people were possessed at a conference in Cato Manor.
Voxes have been edited for brevity and clarity.
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@Same Love Toti offers many services for the LGBTI community in Durban. There are various monthly meetings, one for LGBTI and families, a transgender session for the trans* community, and a youth group too. We also raise awareness by doing sensitisation workshops in schools and any other interested parties, and we have an annual beach walk that calls for an end to homophobia, biphobia & transphobia.
We are part of the LGBTI Provincial Task Team and form part of the Hate Crimes Working Group, to take a stand and do our part in the fight against hate crimes.
Can we ask for your support in getting the word out there? Hopefully those who need help will be better able to find it!
Same Love Toti a NPO has a monthly meeting for the LGBT community for family and friends, also once a month there is a one on one councelling for transgender . You can find there details on face book twitter. Maybe u can advertise it and make people more aware that there is assistance out there.
Very good article, unfortunately we do not know any of the people who were interviewed. I would love to see them support the many different LGBTI initiatives during the year hosted by various groups (mostly funded by themselves). These include special events, monthly meetings and support groups, not to mention the various LGBTI religious groups.
I also wish to mention that there is a transgender support group in Durban hosting regular meetings, but, it could be better supported. Contact @SameLove in Durban for more details.
“We really need to focus on everyone more than we do on white gay people” – Maybe the Durban Pride Committee can also be more transparent in their arrangements, seeing that it is a total black organisation organising the pride, but with very little external support. I am starting to wonder if they even have a following? Take for example the PMB pride, 99% black and indian, 1% white. Why can they get it right? I must however complement the number of younger females in the crowd this year. I think they exceed the male numbers.
To run a support structure/group you need support from the community (not only funding). We are quick to ask for support, but, when events (for example “international day against homophobia” takes place), it is very badly supported, especially between the younger crowd.
The Durban Pride organiser 2018 posted 5 adverts on social media for “Durban Pride Afterparties”. Only one of these identified as LGBTI friendly. They excluded our only major Gay club that is open 365 days a year and that supports all LGBTI events and make their venue freely available during the year for LGBTI meetings. But we are not supporting them?
Before we can point a finger, we need to look at ourselves. Don’t expect support, especially from our younger crowd and individuals coming out, if we don’t support openly LGBTI events ourselves.